For Narnia: Help & Hope for the Suicidal (and those who love them)

God has given me a ministry – an assignment – I neither asked for nor wanted.

There are examples of this throughout the Bible.  God seems to prefer using broken people to help others who are broken.

On May 13, 2013, my precious son, Jordan, lost his battle with debilitating depression and hung himself.  He was 19.

I found him.

After my son took his own life all I wanted to do was to be left alone and die my own slow death.

And then, Jesus whispered tenderly,

“I have something I want you to do.  I want to use Jordan’s death to help others choose to live.”

Whether or not to accept this assignment was an excruciating decision for me.  But, after many years, I was finally able to say,

“If my son’s death can save someone’s life, I’ll take that.”

My son loved C.S. Lewis, Narnia, and all things adventurous.  The phrase “For Narnia!”, as in the story, means “For Hope!  For Freedom! For Aslan!” (Aslan is the Christ-figure in the Chronicles.)

Are you suicidal?  Are you battling suicidal ideation?  Have you lost a loved one to suicide?

Personally, I have to answer “yes” to all the above.

A professional counselor told me it rewired my brain.  And it didn’t take long for me to sink into that black hole known as hopelessness.  This precipitated a ten-day stay in a Psychiatric Ward.

So, yes – I get it.

99% of those who’ve attempted to take their life don’t want to die – they just want the pain to stop.

Below you will  hear an excerpt from a clip by a precious young man who’d lost hope and had decided to end his life by jumping from the Golden Gate Bridge.  (I’ve included one minute of his story. You can view his story in its entirety here.)  Notice what he says at the end of the clip.

“No one’s gonna know that I didn’t want to die.”

I am neither a professional counselor nor a mental health professional.  I am a husband, dad of three, and a pastor.  My almost 40 years in vocational ministry, most of which was in Student Ministry, has given me the opportunity to work with thousands of students and their parents as they went through seasons of crippling pain due to all levels of tragedy and darkness.

I’ve never marketed myself so as to be asked to speak.  But, in 2015, the phone began ringing for invitations to speak.  And it’s not stopped ringing since.  I’ve had the privilege of speaking in many public schools, two universities, a hospital to staff, and numerous churches.

I only wish I’d kept every email and text I have received after giving my presentation as counselors share with me of one or more students who chose to live after listening to what I had to say.

If you are suffering from suicidal ideation and/or feelings causing you to feel the world would be better off without you, I want you to know this:

there is help and hope in abundance.

You are of infinite worth and value.  You are loved.  You matter. Your family and friends would be devastated at your loss.  And, again, there is hope.  Lots of it.

I can’t help everyone.  And many of the messages I receive are  beyond my capacity with which to help.  In those cases, I do my best to connect them with the appropriate professionals and resources.

If you are, right now, considering taking your life call 911 immediately.

Below I have linked a few of my most requested posts.

Should you desire to contact me you can do so via my email or Facebook.  Those links are located on this blog.

For Narnia, Nick

Suicide and the Bible – Pt. 1

Suicide and the Bible – Pt 2

What to say to a person considering suicide

The “choice” of suicide

When & how do I talk to my child about the topic of suicide?

After Suicide: What we needed; what they need

Netflix’ “13 Reasons Why” is not merely Dark, it’s Dangerous